Does Healing Ever Really End?

What breath taught me about cycles, softness, and the myths of resolution

I’ve been sitting with this question lately:

Does healing ever really end?

Not the kind of healing that takes you to a doctor — but that nebulous, soul-level search for freedom from the pain that lingers in quiet moments.

That kind of healing often promises a finish line:

A place where it’s all cleared. Resolved. Done.

It’s seductive. And it’s everywhere.

But what I’ve come to notice — in myself and in others — is something different.

Call it a rhythm. A cycle.

I see it as layers in the unfolding of our lives — as we spiral around the same core themes we’re here to understand, work with, and ultimately integrate.

Some of the most profound shifts I’ve had didn’t come from fixing.

They came from listening. From being.

That’s why breath is my thing.

It’s a sacred language — and a powerful mirror when we truly pay attention.

Your breath can show you what you’re holding.

Where you’ve gone too far.

Where you’re ready to soften.

So how’s your breathing right now?

And what might it be revealing?

If you’ve been deep in the work lately, you may have already sensed that breath mirrors the arc of transformation:

Inspiration (inhale) – Contemplation (pause) – Expression (exhale).

You breathe in new insight.

You hold it. Feel it. Live with it.

And then — when you’re ready — you let it move through you.

So if someone offers you “healing,” ask yourself:

What’s really on the other side of this? What does healing even mean in this context?

Am I ready for the next level in my growth?

I used to think nothing could heal me — and in some ways, I was right.

My left-ear hearing loss has proven stubbornly unrecoverable. 

I was also an expert coverer and outsourcer — covering for my 'flaws' out of fear, and outsourcing my 'healing' because I falsely believed that someone else could do that for me.

But over time, I realised that deafness isn’t only physical.

There are many ways we stop listening — and I’d found most of them.

When I stopped fixing and started listening, I began to recover more than I thought possible.

My most profound healing experience didn’t come from a technique.

It came from integrating the shame, guilt, and inadequacy I’d carried since childhood.

I didn’t “release” it because it “no longer served.”

I took a journey — a really profound one — and used presence to integrate what I used to call pain.

So… does that kind of healing ever really end?

I believe it does — when we stop asking “how do I fix this?”

And start wondering: “How can I find peace with this?”

In breathwork, as in coaching, I don’t fix.

I hold space. I guide. I reflect.

But only you can bring into wholeness what still feels misaligned.

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Breathe well

Tim